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5 Ways to Focus on Christ this Christmas

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Every year, amid twinkling lights and ribbon-bedazzled gifts, I feel a little nudge of worry: Is our family celebrating a truly Christ-centered Christmas?

With so many traditions and to-dos, it can feel challenging to create a truly Christ-centered Christmas–but it doesn’t have to be hard.

Here are 5 simple but meaningful ways to worship, learn of, and be like our Savior this season.

Christ-Centered Christmas Traditions

I adore gift-giving, movie marathons, and Christmas trees glowing in the winter dark. These cultural–but not necessarily spiritual–traditions are fun, bonding, and memory making!

And lately, I’ve also longed to turn more toward my Savior at this season. I want to make plenty of room for Him in our proverbial “inn.”

I hope these ideas will help your family create space for the Christ-child in your celebrations this year:

1. Find Christ In the Routine

When I got pregnant with each of my babies, I suddenly started seeing pregnant women everywhere I went.

It wasn’t because there was some crazy influx of pregnancies in those particular nine-months of my life. The reason I saw so many pregnancies was because I was already thinking about pregnancy non-stop.

Baby under a Christmas tree

The things we think about affect how we see the world.

We can use this knowledge to help us see more Christ in Christmas.

As you go through your daily life, notice and point out these connections to your children:

  • Passing a baby in a stroller could lead to discussion of the newborn Christ.
  • Admiring the night sky could spark talk of the special star.
  • Tucking a child in to a cozy warm bed is an opportunity to wonder about the Prince of Peace sleeping in a stable.
  • Traveling for the holidays could remind us of Mary’s arduous journey before the birth of the her firstborn Son.

The more we talk of Him, the more our minds will naturally turn toward Him.

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2. Display and Play with Nativities

Every Christmas, starting when I was about ten, my mom let me be the one to set out our porcelain nativity set.

I remember thoughtfully arranging a sweet scene of our Savior’s birth, literally making it Christ-centered. As I handled the kings and shepherd, I wondered over the looks of reverence, awe, and love on each figure.

Nativity ornament

I don’t think my mom knew that this simple task was more than just Christmas decorating. It became, unconsciously, an opportunity for me to deeply ponder the birth my Savior.

Create a Christ-centered Christmas through play.

Today, my own little family has several nativities in our home.

One is a pretty porcelain one like my mom’s, and there are several tiny ornament nativities that hang on our Christmas tree.

But I think my favorite one is the Little People nativity set my mother-in-law bought us for Christmas many years ago.

Little People nativity
My six-year-old helped the the donkey bring a present for Baby Jesus!

For ten years it has allowed our children hold the Christ-child in their hands, act out the manger scene, and bring their most treasured items–mostly Lego–to the feet of their Savior.

3. Have a Bite-Sized Scripture Study of the Christmas Story

Brooke Romney Scripture Study advent calendar
Image via Brooke Romney for her Scripture Study Advent calendar

In my dream Christmas worship scenario, our four kids would snuggle quietly in the warm light of the Christmas tree, tenderly contemplating as we read the entire story of Christ’s birth from Luke.

The reality of a winters’ evening looks a lot different–wiggling, giggling, and bitter spats over who is touching who.

Your Christmas-story worship can still be focused on Christ, even if it doesn’t look picture-perfect. โค๏ธ

Daydreams aside, we’ve found that even through the chaos, our children can learn from the Bible if we understand and honor their attention spans.

Last year we discovered a sweet printable scripture-study advent by Brooke Romney that has been a perfect fit for our family.

Brooke Romney Scripture Study advent calendar
Image via Brooke Romney

Each day has a very short selection of scripture–some days it’s just one verse. On the back there are questions to help us understand what we’ve read, and make a connection to our own lives. And it’s only $4.50! We’ll be using it again this year.

Click here to buy your own printable Scripture Study Advent printable.

Last year we did our reading as part of the bedtime routine–and topped it off with the letting the kids opening one of their Trader Joe’s chocolate advents. ๐Ÿ˜‰

4. Reconsider Your Calendar

Calendar

Last year, before we even planned a Christmas activity ourselves, we already had nine different events to attend!

From recitals to programs, parties to projects, it is excruciatingly easy for our Christmastime calendars to get jam-packed and over-full.

But true connection with Christ happens mostly in the simple, quiet places of our lives.

Creating a Christ-centered Christmas season means holding some space to hear Him.

The scriptures tell the story of Elijah’s encounter with God:
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“…And, behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind rent the mountains, and brake in pieces the rocks before the Lord; but the Lord was not in the wind: and after the wind an earthquake; but the Lord was not in the earthquake:

12 And after the earthquake a fire; but the Lord was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice.

1 Kings 19:11-12

The “still small voice” is how the Lord communicates with us–and we can’t hear it or feel it when our ears, brains, and hearts are rushing with an overabundance of things to do.

If you want to bring Christ into your Christmas, look for ways to make room for peace, contemplation, scripture study, and rest in your calendar.

Family by a Christmas tree

You may need to say a gracious, “No,” to some invitations to make this happen. That is okay.

Our families–especially our children–depend on us to guard and prioritize how our family spends each precious hour of Christmas time.

When you make room for the things that touch your heart and heal your spirit, you are making room for Him.

5. Do Small Acts of Service

Christmas cookies

Several years ago our church, introduced us to the idea of a service advent–a countdown to Christmas through small acts of love to others.

Every evening at dinnertime, we would check our “Light the World” service calendar. As we sat around the table, we would talk about how we had served during the day.

We love seeing how our small acts of love can make a big impact on someone else.

Simple Service for Kids

Christmas Service Advent Calendar for Kids

This year, I’ve prepared a super-simple service calendar for you and your kids to enjoy: 25 easy, no-prep acts of kindness to help your family countdown to Christmas.

And because I know the struggle of having littles who want to participate in big-kid things, I created two calendars–one aimed at the toddler and preschool set, and another for older kiddos.

Sign up below to get your copy!

Many Small Things Add up to a Truly Christ-Centered Christmas

As you seek out ways to honor Christ this Christmas, don’t let yourself get bogged down in perfection and not-enough.

Christ honored the widow’s mite, and He will see the love in your offerings too–however humble they may be.

Your effort, your worship, and your love all matter and make a difference.

Merry Christmas, dear mama!

xo,
Jamie

p.s. A little more Christmas help: An intentional screen-free gift guide for kids, and, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by the holidays, ask yourself these 2 questions.

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Dear mama, I know you've got a million things you Dear mama, I know you've got a million things you wish you were doing right or better.โฃ
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I wish I was spending daily one-on-one time with each of my four kiddos, reading books to them more regularly, taking more pictures and video. I wish I was a regular library mom, playdate mom, park-going mom. I wish I liked cooking more, that I wrote them monthly notes to read someday when they are older, and that I didn't get headaches from the sheer volume of four happy children making all the joyful (and kind of weird) noises.โฃ
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But when I (all too rarely) pull back and take a look at the ๐—•๐—œ๐—š ๐—ฃ๐—œ๐—–๐—ง๐—จ๐—ฅ๐—˜, I realize: we're doing it, mama.โฃ
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We're raising these babies of ours.โฃ
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We're nudging them toward their paths, encouraging them, loving on them. We're teaching them by our words, and by our imperfect examples how to start over when they mess up. How to be brave. How to say I'm sorry. How to keep showing up, even when it feels hard.โฃ
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Take a look at your big picture today, mama.โฃ
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Look at all you've accomplished, even when you've thought you weren't doing enough. (Even if you, like me, have to fight back that feeling even ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ you celebrate your wins.)โฃ
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I know you're tired and discouraged, and parenting is maybe the most uncertain, high-stakes thing you've ever done--but you're doing it.โฃ
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Day by day, minute by minute.โฃ
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You're doing so much more than you know. โคโฃ
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How many times have you pushed down what your body needed because you had your own agenda? ๐Ÿ˜ฌโฃ
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Has your body said, "I'm hungry," but you've put off eating until later because you're busy, or because an app has told you that your body has had enough calories for today? (Bodies are like wonderful little machines, and they need fuel to keep going!)โฃ
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Has your body asked you for quiet, or movement, or sunshine and fresh air--but you've denied it because it seemed to hard to ask for help, to make the time, to make someone else wait while you took care of yourself?โฃ
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Here's the thing about bodies, mama: They show up for us even when we're being the very worst friends--but we can't expect to somehow love a friend we don't even listen to.โฃ
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Be your body's friend.โฃ
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Today your challenge is to do just that. Step outside, even just to stand on the doormat on your porch, or walk down to the mailbox, and take three minutes to ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ต ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€.โฃ
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It's easy, in the busyness of adulting, to absorb only what we can ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ, so I want you to ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ *๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ* ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€.โฃ
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๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น? Warm sun on your hair, a cool breeze on your skin, the weight of a creeping-up summertime humidity or a little chill whispering through the evening air?โฃ
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๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ? Birdsong rippling through the air? The rustle of leaves shivering in the wind, or the buzz of honeybees?โฃ
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๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜€๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น? The floral scent of jasmine, the sharpness of fresh-mown grass, the damp earthy fragrance of soil after rain?โฃ
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Let nature put your senses in order today and ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ when you give it a little space.โฃ
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Toddlers set a beautifully simple example of the b Toddlers set a beautifully simple example of the body connection we all long for.
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They're fully devoted to ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐˜€:
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Will my body fit into this cupboard? This basket? This Tupperware?
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What does it feel like to squeeze a whole banana into mush?
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Do I like the taste of Play-doh, Old Spice deodorant, or wood chips from the playground? (Why is the answer to these "Yes!" though, toddlers?)
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Toddlers are ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜€, and they use their bodies to explore their environment with an enthusiasm that leaves most toddler-mamas exhausted. ๐Ÿ˜œ 
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๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€.
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Toddler curiosity never comes perfectly packaged:
They're furious that they can't fit their lower body into a Tupperware! They're constantly covered in mud, Crayola markers, or applesauce. And while they will happily devour half a stick of deodorant if left unsupervised while you pee for ONE MINUTE, they ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ญ scream if you try to feed them a delicious slice of watermelon or a quesadilla served on the wrong color plate.
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We don't have to be perfect in our curiosity either!
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I am consistently fussy when I try to do an exercise that my body is new at (I'm looking at you, diamond pushups, you big jerks), embarrassed when I fumble the keys during piano lessons, and frustrated at how slowly my hands are learning to draw a reasonably good portrait.
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That's okay! Curiosity can be messy. Messy is allowed.
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๐—ง๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฑ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฟ-๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜€, and use your body to explore your world more deeply.
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What does the tall grass in your backyard feel like? Do you still dislike blueberries? Can you do a pushup? (If you can't, do you want to learn?)
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Feel the feelings that come with these things, but don't beat yourself up. Just be curious. Wonder. Try. Log that information, and be curious about more things.
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Want a little accountability? Come back here and share your in the comments what you got curious about today!
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#bodylove4all #bodyconfidence #loveyourbody #positivebodyimage #bodyimage #loveyourbody
When you were a little kid, your primary goal was When you were a little kid, your primary goal was to ๐—ฃ๐—Ÿ๐—”๐—ฌ ๐—”๐—ฆ ๐— ๐—จ๐—–๐—› ๐—”๐—ฆ ๐—ฃ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ฆ๐—œ๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜. You were 100% sure that this was the purpose of your body.
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Not chores, not school, not eating a balanced meal with all the food groups accounted for. Nope. Those were uses of your body (usually spoon-fed to you by grown ups). But to you the purpose of your body was PLAY!
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What do you think is the purpose of your body now?
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To clean up the kitchen again, and go get more groceries? To keep your toddler and/or dog out of the trashcan? To remember everybody's dental appointments and birthdays and shoe sizes?
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These are all noble purposes--but they're not necessarily joyful.
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They might make you feel ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ญ for your body in that adulty I-should-feel-grateful way, but they probably don't help you enjoy and connect with your body.
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Play, though? Play is joyful!
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Play lets us appreciate and enjoy living in our bodies.
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๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚?
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Not the obligatory play-pretend-with-the-kids, but ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ kind of play.
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Look for play you can do ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ you do your adulty stuff, like dancing like a weirdo with some Meghan Trainor in your headphones while you clean the kitchen.
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Look for play you can do JUST FOR THE SAKE OF PLAY--like taking time to draw or cook something just because it sounds fun.
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Look for ways you can use play to connect, like making silly faces at your kid across the dinner table, or saying "Yes" to a tickle fight.
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More fun = more connection with your body, so ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฃ๐—Ÿ๐—”๐—ฌ!
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Do you ever feel totally angry at or disconnected Do you ever feel totally angry at or disconnected from your body? Like, who even ๐˜ช๐˜ด my body anymore?โฃ
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As women, our relationships with our bodies get incredibly complicated even early on in our lives--and especially when ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜‚๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป.โฃ
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Your might feel angry at and betrayed by your body--maybe you have for years:โฃ
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Because you bled through your clothes when you were a tween, or didn't get your period until so late in life that it was scary, or never got one at all.โฃ
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Because your breasts grew too early or too late, too big or too small.โฃ
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Because your body didn't match the shapes you idealized, or the strength you hoped you'd have.โฃ
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Because you couldn't exercise without using an inhaler.โฃ
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Because it carries painful and challenging chronic illness, or needs antidepressants to function better.โฃ
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Because it looks so different than people always notice it and talk about it--even tease you about it or turn away from you over it.โฃ
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Because it couldn't get pregnant, or couldn't carry your baby full term.โฃ
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Because it couldn't produce enough milk to nurse, or because nursing was so painful or difficult that it became impossible.โฃ
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Because it didn't "bounce back" after you gave birth, won't get smaller when you want it to, has aches and pains that seem to come from nowhere, doesn't fit into your pre-pregnancy jeans, insists on wearing clothes with a bigger number on the tag.โฃ
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So many reasons.โฃ
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Last week I confessed that this year I've felt deeply sad about how my body looks. And as I shared about ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ feelings about my body I realized, all of a sudden, that ๐—œ'๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ด๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐—œ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ด๐—ต๐˜ ๐—œ'๐—ฑ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜บ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ด.โฃ
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This week we're going to look at gently reconnecting with our bodies. Dipping a toe in the water of re-trusting. Putting into practice our mantra that ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฑ.โฃ
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๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐˜†.โฃ
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[Photo of me riding my broom "horse" in my shiny robe, circa 1989 ๐Ÿ˜˜]
What if you didn't have to earn love by looking be What if you didn't have to earn love by looking better? What if you already are loved as you are--how would that change how you feel in and about your body?โฃ
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Could you start living and working from a place of encouragement instead of desperation?โฃ
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Could you stop trying to earn your worthiness by changing you body--and just look after it instead?โฃ
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This concept from @lysaterkeurst 's book profoundly changed me: "Live from the abundant place that you are loved, and you wont find yourself begging others for scraps of love."โฃ
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Until we choose to allow ourselves to receive and accept love ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ, we will continuously, frantically scramble toward an imaginary pinnacle of self that is "worthy."โฃ
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No need to scramble, sweet mama: you are already worthy of love.โฃ
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Your challenge now is to bravely open your heart up, and let it in.
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